The mystery of marriage

Cesar Gorillo .

WHEN I retired, I had to be very thankful that my hearing is little impaired so that I could no longer hear the non-stop comments from my wife about the smallest things in the house.  I have to be very thankful also that my vision is a little fuzzy because I cannot see the wrinkles in the eyes of my wife; hence, she still looks as young as when I first met her.

God intended a man and a woman to cling to each other till death so that the work of God in creating man will be complete, that is,  a man and a woman to procreate and to bring their product to their full maturity until they depart from this temporary life.

This is the essence of this thing called marriage. But the problem is, many yearn for the younger days when they are sexually aggressive with each other.  In later years, this sexual yearning is a thing of the past. The husband may have his sexual fantasies, but no longer with an old woman like his wife.  She will then consider your sexual advances as more of a disturbance to her TV addiction or to her Android phone and her Facebook friends.

It is no wonder that for husbands who are still sexually active, they look for younger sex partners either on a one night stand or on a semi-permanent relationship with all the condos or apartments and groceries as monthly sustenance to maintain their illicit transactions. With the present hard economic lives, many young women cling to this dangerous and temporary relationships.  After all, the proposal came from the old man., and she was just a willing recipient.

Herein comes the need for couples to be inventive on what to do to make their relationship stay and grow despite the apparent lack of sexual adventures.  Many I know join Zumba sessions, others join walking buddy groups while some go on extensive travels abroad (for those who can afford) and some are so busy with their business they no longer have time for personal explorations with each other.

Good that in our case, we have a prayer group in the Charismatic Movement wherein we met every Friday at our parish with other members and vent all our prayers to God and sing those joyful songs. Every Monday, we are a member of a small prayer group as part of the Movement’s activities and we have a lot of  sharing with our Catholic brothers and sisters the things we need to do to enhance our marriage.  We have been doing this for the last thirty four years of our married life.

In order not to make ourselves lusyang, my wife buys everything in the market that can maintain her beauty such as calamansi, sanchwich spread, glutathione, Japanese Kogie soap which she applies to her face and some to her body.  Myself, I also maintain my tennis regimen while she takes care of my hair with our weekly black color applications.

To maintain our close contacts with the outside world, I have my sets of Facebook friends while she also has hers.  She has her favorite teleserye  while I maintain my addiction to the NBA games.  This way, there is no boring phase of our marriage and while we are on bed we exchange the latest chismis  and we laugh loudly while I imitate the voices of people I know and even stand beside her bed to physically copy the actuations of some people. We laugh and laugh until we forget we have already slept and forget about my need for sexual favors which she will reject anyway.

Without all these, we will never realize that husbands have been enamored with a young beautiful 20-year old whose body is so soft and whose perfume exudes the sweetest smell and enough to awake the dormant sexual fantasies of us men.

And not being even aware of it, we will never realize that we have engineered the slow distraction of a union that God himself instituted when He said, “for a woman shall leave her mother and father and cling to her husband and the two shall become one.”

Despite all its problems and proven boring day-to-day ceremonies, a marraige is really worth saving and clinging to until the last breath of our lives.