Navigating One’s Groove

IT’S still March, and it’s still International Women’s Month. I have a lot of things to say about being a woman, and this will be the last. I don’t want to sound like I’m ranting.

It’s just that the movies and series I’ve seen recently and the news and interviews I’ve heard the past few weeks heightened my burning thoughts. I find it disappointing to overhear some women saying things that make me say, “It’s a sad day of being a woman.”

Here are my facts.

There’s no truth in playing dumb blonde. Either you’re just blonde or plain dumb. You might think it’s cute, but it’s not. If you have something to say, speak up. There’s nothing wrong as long as you’re not hurting other people or stepping on someone’s dignity.

Playing dumb is worse than being dumb. The sacrifice is not worth it. Some play dumb to get out of a tight situation. The last card, as most people would say. Would you not want to hear this about you? “She’s beautiful and brilliant.” Instead of, “She’s beautiful, but low up here (pointing to head).”

Independence is power. Independence doesn’t mean being alone or living alone. An independent woman knows who she is and what she wants. That’s power.

Knowing who you are and what you want makes you confident and assertive. You are self-sufficient. You can go around your daily life without waiting for someone to provide sustenance. Being independent allows you to follow your passions and goals without limitations.

Being independent doesn’t also mean you cannot have a good relationship. You happen to go beyond the conventional life mission of finding a life partner. You can be married or in a relationship but remain independent.

A modern woman knows her worth. You don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. You are defined not by societal labels but by how you have made a difference in another person’s life.

Making an impact on one’s life doesn’t even entail money. Being present to someone is what makes the difference. Empathy and genuine connections make for a lasting impact.

Despite all the roles a modern woman has to juggle—personal, professional, and social—creating and maintaining a balance defines you as a woman.

Time management, defining your different roles, and setting fences between each role should be of help. Know when to step on the break and come to a halt. Doing this gives the respect that each role deserves.

You are a beautiful tapestry of each role and experience that you have. You are a unique individual with a groove of your own. Celebrate it!